This blog post contains details of a sexual nature which some readers may find upsetting or disturbing.
Yesterday I read a story, which got me so angry I felt compelled to share it with you. But be warned, it’s dark and not my usual funny, light hearted waffle.
This week a case was brought to the Court of Protection regarding a man and his wife of twenty years, who has learning difficulties. Now, the case had been brought to court by lawyer’s of a council’s social services because the wife’s condition has deteriorated so much, that she is now lacking the mental capacity to make a decision regarding the undertaking of sex with her husband. She is therefore, no longer able to give her consent, and so the judge – Mr Justice Hayden – was asked to consider putting a court order in place to bar the husband from continuing to have sex with her. This would ensure that the woman is not raped.
(Told you it was dark, no offence taken if you wanna pop off and watch cute kittens or Kinder Eggs being unwrapped on YouTube)
It gets worse.
During the hearing the man offered to agree not have sex with his wife, however Mr Justice Hayden stated he wanted to examine all the evidence before making a decision. He then said – “I cannot think of any more obviously fundamental human right than the right of a man to have sex with his wife.”
Hang-on-a-f*cking-goddam-minute? Have we been sucked back in time to the nineteen-f*cking-hundreds mate?
If she cannot freely give her consent, whether she’s his wife or his prostitute, this is rape is it not?
Because guess what? I can think of a more fundamental right than the right of a man to have sex with his wife. How about the right of a wife to give her consent, or not? The right to be protected from being raped? The right not to be abused and basically used as a sex doll? The right to dignity and respect, in what sounds like the last few uncomfortable and difficult years of her life.
Can you imagine if you couldn’t say – ‘Not tonight love, I’m tired.’ Or – ‘You haven’t quite finished me off dear, so could you just…’ Or ‘No. I’ve told you before, I won’t do anal.’ I mean can’t he just go and have a w*nk in the shower?
I’m with the Labour MP for Bristol West, Thangam Debbonaire on this one. She tweeted – “A judge stating ‘I cannot think of any more obviously fundamental human right than the right of a man to have sex with his wife’. No man in the UK has such a legal right to insist on sex. No consent = rape.”
Click the link to watch cute kitten joy on YouTube here!